Written by: Rhea
Hey, lovelies! From all of us here with the Crybaby Club, Happy Holidays! Hope you all had a wonderful season filled with cheer – and if not, hope that 2017 brings better times! With that, it’s time to get to know one especially lovely lady who was kind enough to be our Crybaby of the Month: Nora Ramaha! Every month, we’re going to showcase one of your tender hearts so that we at the Crybaby Club – and you all – can get to know each other a little better. Without further ado, here’s Nora!
Q: If you could describe this month in one word, what would it be?
Nora: Hmm, maybe intense. I’ve had a hectic final month of 2016 and a lot of it was more negative than positive. To add to that was the death count - both for this year and this month - for celebrities and just things you hear on the news or from friends, etc.
Q: Ouch, I know what you mean. On a slightly lighter note, how old are you? Where do you live? Do you have any nicknames?
Nora: I'm 23 years old (but will be 24 in February) and am living in San Francisco, CA. I think the only nickname I've ever been given was "shorty" for a very brief time because of my height.
Q: What’s your favorite color? Is there anything else that you’d like to share about yourself in particular?
Nora: Hmm. I think a turquoise/teal/aqua are close favorites but I don't exactly have a favorite. I also really like navy. Maybe certain shades of blue (and some shades of green) are my favorite. I don't really know what to say about myself, honestly. I'm a Hufflepuff and adore anything Harry Potter related. Oh, and I have my cosmetology license.
Q: That’s pretty rad! When did you first realize that you were a Crybaby?
Nora: Perhaps the moment I was introduced to the club. I don't think I ever could put into words who I was or what group I belonged best in until I became a member. Then it all came together.
Q: Speaking of which: how did you find out about, and become a member of the Crybaby Club? What do you love most about it? If you had to sum up the Crybaby Club, how would you describe it in a few sentences?
Nora: Oh gosh, now we are really testing my memory here. I think I was having a really bad day and venting out to [Rhea] and explaining how I was feeling and that while I appreciated having [her], I wished I had more support. [She] asked me if I’d like to join the Crybaby Club which is a group full of supportive and loving people that are similar to me. I agreed and got accepted in and now I am here. The Crybaby Club is this sort of home feeling. I think I’ve said this before once, but it still rings true: that you could be having the worst possible day, and the moment you get home, there's someone there waiting for you with arms wide open ready to listen and bake you cookies and give you hugs. The Crybaby Club is that home. It’s that sense of peace when you enter and that sense of comfort of that person that's waiting to hear about your day. That sense of relaxation like a hot cup of tea before bed.
Q: What is your favorite thing about yourself?
Nora: Hmm... I don’t really know honestly. Being sweet? I'm still learning about who I am so figuring out what I like about myself is still in the works.
Q: Well, I'd definitely agree in saying that you're very sweet. What are some things that you’re working on improving about yourself?
Nora: Just staying optimistic and trying to remember my worth. I’ve been working on saying "no" to people I love and remembering that it's okay. Making time for myself is a big thing for me, and giving my mental health the attention it deserves. I'll figure out my next step after I get into the habit of better self-care.
Q: What kind of crier are you? Silent? Wailer? Blubberer?
Nora: I’ve never thought of this before. I think it depends, but usually silent.
Q: Likewise! How do you practice self-care? What are some of your favorite things to do? Do you have any guilty pleasures?
Nora: I try practicing self-care by first understanding that my time is my own and being aware that I need time for myself too. I'm working on saying "no" to loved ones without needing to constantly apologize for it as well. Some of my favorite things to do on my own time is face masks and either reading a bit or watching a movie or TV show (though I will admit that lately it has been watching something). One of my guilty pleasures is this show called Pretty Little Liars. I'm waiting for it to return. Another guilty pleasure for me is chocolate or ice cream before bed. I have no idea why I crave it before I sleep, but I do - and I know it's not a healthy choice, but it ends my night so well.
Q: If you knew that today was your last day on earth, where would you go? Who would you hug? What is the most important thing you would have to do?
Nora: Hmm… I'm not sure. Maybe go somewhere that's warm and has a beach and be by the ocean. Or possibly Harry Potter world. Either one with the people I love would make it worthwhile. I’d hug my mother. Actually she’d be the first, then I'd hug the rest of my family that I'm still in contact with, then my two best friends, and finally all of my other friends. I'd want to hug everyone. Most important thing for me is to tell everyone that I love them and give my mom the rest of my time so that when the day is up, she can have happy memories. I'm no parent but I can imagine the pain of out living your child and if it’s my time, I think it’s best shared with my mom. And maybe a bit shared with my half brothers and my two best friends. I’d use that time to give them a happy memory and remind them that I love them all.
Q: Who is someone in your life that inspires you – to be yourself, better yourself, and love yourself?
Nora: I think I’d have to say my mom and my best friends, Timmy and Peter. I want to make my mom proud and my two best friends are always wanting me to succeed and they’re the most supportive friends I've had. They always make time for me and see the absolute best in me even when I don’t see it in myself. I want to be the person they see me as and love myself the way all three of them do.
Q: Just to wrap it all up – what makes you truly you?
Nora: There’s no one else out there who is me. I am the only me with my own memories, my own life, and I leave my own impression on people. I get to feel things the way I do and perceive things the way I do and no one else can say otherwise. I don’t think I can ever not be truly me.