In the past year, I have seen self-care literally everywhere. Don't get me wrong, it is so so important to take care of yourself. The issue is, when self-care because mainstream we don't leave room for those who cope differently.
For me, there seems to be trends in what self-care looks like, face masks, bubble baths, reading a book and the like. And those things are incredibly helpful, for some not all. I think we need to reclaim what self-care means, and where you should start when thinking about your self-care routine. YOU. MUST. KNOW. YOURSELF. At least what makes you happy.
The hardest thing about life is it moves quickly and that often we don't spend enough time with ourselves, we don't give ourselves room to feel and get cozy in ourselves and understand our nooks and crannies. The issue here is that this is incredibly important when thinking about how to care for ourselves and thinking about where to start.
A self-care routine doesn't have to be a one-size fits all situation. For some, people unplugging might be the way to go, for others it might be the opposite, but it works. So how does one get to know how to take care of themselves? I like to do something called the deep breath list. Heres how to do it:
1. Get your favorite notebook ,pad, sticky note and pen!
2. Find a good spot for you, maybe one with sun or your favorite lighting situation.
3. Take a deep breath
4. Write your priorities for that day down, write the things you want to do in that very moment, for the day/night/weekend.
5. Here's your self-care routine!
I think it is important to note that self-care should be fluid and should be held under the conditions of the things that will improve your mood and feel taken care of, as well as be based in the need at the moment. Everything you try won't work forever and I don't think that should be a scary thing, but rather an important moment to note in one’s growth. It is important to take a step back every once and awhile and have a personal check-in in regards to our practices with ourselves, like any other relationship there should be room to grow and acknowledgement when it happens. This also means that when someone else self-care doesn't seem like it would work for us, we respect it and everyone find their groove.
loving and always rising,